Are You a Slough?

So, I looked up the word ‘slough’ — here is what I found.


  1. Slough something off.
    shed or remove (a layer of dead skin).
    “a snake sloughs off its old skin” “exfoliate once a week to slough off any dry skin”
    • get rid of (something undesirable or no longer required).
      dispose of, disgard, throw away, throw out, get rid of, toss out, shed, jettison, scrap, cast aside/off, repudiate, abandon, relinquish, drop, dispense with, have done with, reject, shrug off, throw on the scrapheap, chuck (away/out), fling away, dump, ditch, axe, bin, junk, trash, forsake.
      keep, acquire
    • slough off
      (of dead skin) drop off; be shed.
      synonyms: (same as above)
      antonyms: (same as above)
    • slough away/down
      (of soil or rock) collapse or slide into a hole or depression.
  1. the dropping off of dead tissue from living flesh.
    “the drugs can cause blistering and slough”

Truly something to evaluate.

D.A. Carson said, “…we slough toward prayerlessness and delude ourselves into thinking we have escaped legalism; we slide toward godlessness and convince ourselves we have been liberated.”

We deceive ourselves when the Truth is not in us (1 John 1:8). So, be careful before you cast judgement or fluff off God’s warning.

Should the verb ‘sloughing’ — which is the present act — ever be active/thriving/apart of the daily life, characterization, or decision process of a child of God? I could answer my own question, but time and time again the wrongful answer is revealed when one chooses to little steps of saying “no” to God in our life.

When a child of God ceases to forsake the keeping, acquiring, feasting, conforming, desiring, obeying, living for the cause of Christ, or stops actively putting on Christ — their decision is clear. There active choice states their inward heart’s intent: to live a sloughing life….to shed, remove, dispose of, disgard, throw away, throw out, get rid of, toss out, shed, jettison, scrap, cast aside/off, repudiate, abandon, relinquish, drop, dispense with, have done with, reject, shrug off, throw on the scrapheap, chuck (away/out), fling away, dump, ditch, axe, bin, junk, trash, forsake the very One who gave them His free gift of eternal life, salvation from sin, and a personal relationship with the Creator.

Could this decision be revoked? It sure could. But only through the forgiveness of Jesus Christ along with a willful heart that acknowledges ones sin(s) of the rejection of Christ. A life change, an about–face must happen, inwardly and outwardly. Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever — His love for you hasn’t changed. He is calling. He is waiting. He is desiring you — to walk intimately and freely together. He wants to bless you. He is a giver of good things.

So, why slough?

  • Has God become something that is undesirable?
  • Has God ceased to preform for you so you no longer require His services — His quarter ran out?
When we concoct our own idea(s) of God without the involvement of God — meaning our ideals are not anchored in the Word of God — we will be our own leader of deception and the Truth is not in us.
  • Want liberation?
  • Come to Jesus! There is no other way.
  • Holiness doesn’t happen by osmosis.
  • It takes labor — there is profit in all labor (Proverbs 14:23) — but HE is worth every effort, every church service, every verse read, every prayer spoken, every step of obedience, every choice made to glorify Him, every step of faith!
So, are you a ‘slougher’ or not?

In Christ I am SHE {Saved. Hopeful. Empowered.}

Relationship 101

In Christ I am SHE {Saved. Hopeful. Empowered.}

Real Solutions for Overcoming Discouragement, Rejection and the Blues [pt 1]

Real Solutions for Overcoming Discouragement, Rejection and the Blues

by H. Norman Wright

Relationships are all around us. We think about them, talk about them, and experience them. We were created to be in relationships, and most of our lives are spent in various relationships. Take them away, and our existence becomes sterile. They have the potential for happiness and fulfillment but also for discouragement and depression.

We need to consider healthy and unhealthy relationships.

  • Where do people experience the most painful rejections?
  • Where is it really easy to become discouraged?
  • What kind of relationships foster depression?

There’s one factor to be considered when examining a relationship, no matter at what level the relationship exists. A relationship is going to be either a depleting or a replenishing one.

A depleting relationship is one in which you are with someone who drains you emotionally and spiritually. It taps into your energy reserves in some way. Being around this type of person is just plain work. At first the relationship may seem workable, but soon it becomes an exercise in depletion and coping. And the result can be discouragement or depression.

Relationship depression is the phrase used to describe the results of a depleting relationship. It’s used to describe the sad or angry feelings caused by relational conflicts and disappointments; it also refers to the absence of a meaningful relationship. Sometimes relationship depression occurs because of our own low self-esteem, poor choices, or lack or interpersonal skills or because of carefully hidden deficits in those we’ve chosen.


This is one where you care more for the other person than that person cares about you. Or vice versa. Either way, the relationship is out of balance. It’s tilting. One pursues while the other wants to pull back. A constant diet of this is unhealthy.

You may think that this contrast in how you respond to each other simply indicates differences in your personalities. Perhaps, but it may also be lack of interest or caring.

It’s difficult to admit that you may care more for the other person than he or she does for you. When you think about it, you get a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach. And then you may rationalize yourself out of accepting the facts, or you may move into a state of denial.

What are some indications that a relationship is a mismatch—that you have a higher level of interest in the relationship than the one you care about?

  • You initiate most of the contact in the relationship.
  • If this in a romantic attachment, you initiate most if the affectionate advances, such as holding hands, hugging, kissing.
  • You’re the plan maker; the other just seems to go along.
  • You sacrifice to do things for the other or make life more agreeable, but you don’t see this reciprocated.
  • You’re excited about the relationship, while the other person just seems to be along for the ride.
  • You talk about your relationship and possible future plans, but this strikes an unresponsive chord with your partner.

If this is the pattern, the initiator’s positive attitude will erode in time, the other’s nonresponsiveness being experienced as a form of rejection.

Could this be just differences in personalities? Possibly. But if so, you can expect the person to be this way for the long term. Is this disparity what you want? Whether it’s a personality difference or the other person really doesn’t care as much as you do, either way, you’ll eventually get weary of being the initiator.

Some people never tire of being rescuers. They live for it. Yet there’s a problem with that. A relationship is not going to work if either one of you habitually rescues the other.

In a healthy relationship, you want to be there for the other person, and the other person want to be there for you. But a relationship isn’t healthy if you’re the one who is always there for your partner, and he’s like a ghost when you need him.

If you rescue others, what do you expect from them? Thanks, appreciation, perhaps even reciprocation? But in a close relationship, you’ll often find this response nonexistent—especially if your partner is a taker. Why? When you rescue others, you’re exerting some type of control over them. In time they may end us resenting you for it. The unspoken, subtle message conveyed to them is “I’m better than you are, and you’re not capable of handling things yourself.” They could get discouraged and so will you.

Rescuers repeat this pattern with different partners. They seem to be attracted to people who need them. (Rescuers and the one being rescued vibe off one other–it can end up becoming a love hate relationship.)


Excerpts taken from Chapter 8—Beware of Relationships that Lead to Discouragement & the Blues (pages 99 to 109)

Again, the above information, has been taken from H. Norman Wright’s book called, Real Solutions for Overcoming Discouragement, Rejection and the Blues. This book has been both helpful and encouraging to me, and I wanted to share these thoughts with you from his book. Hope they have been the same for you! Keep the Fatih!

In Christ I am SHE {Saved. Hopeful. Empowered.}